Family, Friends & Fellow Officers Remember...

Merry Christmas Adam!! We miss you dearly but your in our thoughts. This has been a rough year so hopefully 2004 will be a better one for all of us. Keep watching over us and know that we love you dearly.

Angie, Lindsey and Emilee

December 25, 2003

Dear Adam,
It has almost been a year. I think of you every day and still get upset at times. I have to say that Jan 13, 2003 was the worst day of my life last year. Yet in a year I never thought I would make it through I have found that little something to keep me going. Then in October I think you and God both did a little pushing. (You know what I mean). One of our great conversations was if anything ever happened to you "get on with life". Thank you. I know in your own way you are doing what you said you would do. Continue to look after everyone as you always have. Greatly missed! Merry Christmas Adam!

Katrina

December 22, 2003

DEAREST OLD FRIEND ADAM, I JUST LEARND OF YOUR PASSING ABOUT TWO DAYS AGO I SAW A DECAL ON THE BACK OF A BLACK SUV THAT READ,"IN LOVING MEMORY OF ADAM R. FLESHNER,". THEN YOUR NAME RAN THROUGH MY HEAD A COUPLE OF TIMES AND THEN YOUR FACE POPPED IN MY HEAD. SO WHEN EVER I GOT HOME I TOOK OUT MY PICTURE ALBUM AND I STARTED HUNTING YOUR PICTURE YOU GAVE ME A LONG TIME AGO, THE ONE THAT YOU WAS WEARING A BLUE STRIPE SHIRT. I SAW THAT BIG SMILE AND THOSE CUTE FRECKLES. THEN I REMEMBERED THE FIRST TIME I MET YOU AT =GASKIN SPRINGS CHURCH CAMP IN DOUGLAS= THIS WAS WHEN WE WAS ABOUT 15 YEARS OLD YOU WERE MY FIRST REAL BOY FRIEND . I WAS SO SAD TO FIND OUT THAT IT WAS REALLY YOU THAT HAD PASSED. YOU WAS ONE OF THE NICEST, SWEETEST PEOPLE I'VE EVER MET . I HAVE READ ALL OF THE REFLECTIONS ABOUT YOU THEY ALL SHOW ME THAT YOU WAS STILL THAT GREAT PERSON YOU WAS SO MANY YEARS AGO . THE ONES ABOUT YOUR DAUGHTER REALLY TOUCH ME THE MOST I'VE CRIED UNTIL MY EYES BURN. I KNOW SHE WILL UNDERSTAND HOW MUCH HER DADDY LOVED AND HOW MUCH HE LOVES HER NOW AND FOREVER!!! EVEN THOUGH I ONLY KNEW YOU FOR TWO AND A HALF YEARS YOUR MEMERIOUS IN MY HEART LAST FOREVER.


TO THE FAMILY OF ADAM REID FLESHNER I SEND MY DEAPEST HEART FELT SYMPATHY.


YOUR FRIEND IN CHIRST,
ADA DAVIS

ADA DAVIS/AN OLD FRIEND

December 5, 2003

my dearest little brother,
i found the pictures of you and me dancing in the living room and acting silly when we lived in Hilliard, and it made me smile. i miss those silly days with you. great grandma passed away two weeks ago and it makes me feel better knowing that you were there to greet her. Dad has had a heart attack and is in the hospital. he will have to go through triple bypass surgery. I'pray that he will be alright. i've lost to many people this year and don't want to lose another one. i think you passing has been the most traumatic thing in my life and i don't think i can handle losing dad too. please look out for him as i know you do all the rest of us. i love you and miss you so much. mom is doing pretty good. and mark is expecting a baby early next year believe it or not. maybe he's finally growing up. i hope so. the kids are doing good and they miss you to. i love you and talk to you often at night. I just hope it's true that you can hear me. either way it gives me some comfort. until we see each other again i'll always love and miss you.

love your sister
melissa

melissa

September 15, 2003

Dear Adam,
There is a new song out that a 12 year old girl sings "Daddy can you hear me when I talk to you." I think of Emilee ever time the song comes on the radio. There are several that remind me of you but that one causes me to cry everytime. I came across soem poems that also make me think of you and I'm not sure which reminds me of you more. One was put in our paper about a month ago. The other was emailed to me. There is so much I want to tell you. I have been working for the Charlton Co Herald for about four months now. We seem to talk about you at least once a week. David said Monday how Friday nights game just didn't seem right without you down there to talk to him. Any way the other paper no longer prints David was really happy about that.
any way i wanted to leave these other poems on this web page for you.

HE SET ME FREE!
Don't grieve for me
for he set me free;
Following the path God laid you see!
I took His hand when I heard His call;
I turned away and left it all!
I could not stay another day
to laugh, to love, to work, or play.
Tasks left indone must stay that way,
I've found peace at close of day.
If my parting has left a void,
Then fill it with remembered joy!
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss,
Oh yes these things I too shall miss.
But be not burndened with great sorrow,
I wish you sunshine come tomorrow.
My life's been full, I savored much,
Good friends, good times, a loved one's touch!
Perhaps my time seemed all too brief,
Don't lengthen it now undo grief.
Lift up your hearts and peace to thee......
God wanted me now,
HE SET ME FREE!
author unknown


The next one title and author are unknown


When tomorrow starts without me,
and I'm not here to see,
If the sun should rise and find your
eyes all filled with tears for me.

I wish so much you wouldn't cry
the way you did today,
While thinking of the many things
we didn't get to say.

I knw how much you love me,
as much as I love you.
And each time you think of me
I know you'll miss me too.

But when tomorrow starts without me,
please try to understand,
that an angel came and called my name
and took me by the hand.

And said my palce was ready
in Heaven far above,
And that I would have to leave behind
all those I dearly love.

But as I turned to walk away,
a tear fell from my eye,
for all my life I'd always thought
I didn't want to die.

I had so much to live for and
so much yet to do,
It seemed impossible that
I was leavign you.

I thought of yesterdays, the good
ones and the bad,
I thought of all the love we shared and all
the fun we had.

If I could relive yesterday, I
thought for a while, I'd say
goodbye and kiss you and maybe see you smile.

But when I fianlly reaized that this could never be....
For memories and emptiness woudl take the place of me.

And when u thought of worldly things
that I woudl miss tomorow
I thougth of you, and when I did,
my heart was filled with sorrow.

But when I walked through Heaven's gate, I felt
so much at home, when God looked down
at me, from His golden throne.

He said..."This is eternity and all i've promised you>
Today your life on earth is past
but here anew.

I promised you no tomorrows, but today always will last.
And since each day's the same day, there's no longing for the past."

So when tomorrow starts without me,
don't think we're far apart.
Everytime you think of me, I'm right here, in your heart.


They both remind me of words you would say and have said. I just hope they help others as they have me. I will always hold you in a special place.

Katrina

August 20, 2003

Well son; another birthday has come and gone, you would have been 24 years old' and as a family, we sit and wonder what ccould have been? I personally believe we do this because we will not accept the reality of what is. When I was in the Marine Corps, I used too wonder about such things as, the worth of a man, what makes up the essence of a man, where does real courage come from? That question has been answered lo these many years later from a quarter I never expected it to come from! The answer came from (YOU.) At eighteen years of age you decided on the path you would set for your life. You chose law enforcement. I was very surprised, and extremly proud, when you informed me of your decision to become a servant of the public. I know that it is a very dangerous occupation, and I asked you to be cognizant of that fact, yet you were determined to follow that path. Everytime I saw you; my parting words to you were always; I LOVE YOU SON, DON"T BECOME A STATISTIC! Yet unafraid you perservered, and did your duty!!! Your mother, and I cuold'nt be prouder! Mark JR. and Mellisa speak of you often, and I am sure they will not forget you; as I am sure that they are forever proud of you! Adam we, your family; will never get over your passing at so young an age! However I must say that our collective sorrow, is tempered with extreme PRIDE! Not only in you , but what you represented, LAW and ORDER, the collective will of man, for order, and justice, so that we might all live in some semblance of peace and harmony. Without fear! No greater love has a man, than to lay down his life for another man so that he may live in PEACE! You gave up your today, so that we might have our future! SON; THANKS TO PEOPLE LIKE YOU, WE DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE IN A STATE OF ANARCHY!!! Love, Forever DAD.

Happy Birthday 24 th!!!!
ADAM
I know you not here but it is still your birthday. It is hard to belive that it has been six months ago that we said our last goodbye. Well Alyssa's is 1 year old now and Emilee will be one in two weeks I wish you could see how much they have change Emilee is trying to walk now i know you would be happy about that one... Well we love you and miss you ...

Tommie & Holly
CCSO,Roomate

It's your 24th birthday and even though your not here i still want to say happy birthday. i love and miss you so much. sometimes when it's quiet and i'm alone i think about you and in my head i can still hear your laughter and see your smiling face. Angie and Bair and the girls were here last weekend. Emilee just gets more cuter every time I see her. She is such a sweet baby and looks so much like you. I hope she has your outgoing attitude and spirit. I miss and love you and i guess I 'll talk to you later. LOVE YA LITTLE BRO.

MELISSA

melissa mckendree sister

Adam,
Holly came in the office today. We talked about the baby that is on the way. And of cource our conversation went to you. Your birthday is coming up Saturday. All I think about is how we all sat around Tommie and Holly's talking about having yours and Alyssa's birthday party together. My heart is still just as heavy as it was the day I received the news you would not come home. I think of your last words all the time. I start to cry and realize that you would tell me to stop crying for you if you could. I remeber our talks about you rsister Angel and how to be if I lost you. I just don't get it. God needed you and the rest of us do too. Any way I hope that your Birthday is one with all the angels singing thier lovely songs to you.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ADAM

Katrina

Emily was here in Pensacola for our anual family reuion, and everyone remarked that she is the spitting image of you. Time has not yet allowed the pain of your premature passage from our lives too deminishe. we all still miss you, and I suppose that will ALWAYS be the case. I was, and still am; very proud of you! Many in Folkston GA. still miss you, and you are constantly on the minds of the people that you served, and ultimately gave your life for, your service will never be forgotten by those you so proudly served. That, and your Daughter, are your legacy to the world. You did your (DUTY) well; and took care of the community Now we your family, WIILL!! take care of Emily, that is our pledge to you. We will be in Folkston for her first Birthday, and I will visit with you once again at your place of rest. In a general sense the word HERO is much over used, never the less; you are our hero; and we all miss you terribly! You did the one thing most people never seem to accomplish, to have left the world a better place from your service too us all, for that we are all, ETERNALLY GRATEFULL! DAD.

Dear Adam,
I was just thinking about you and I tough tI would say hello. Tomorrow makes six months and tiem just doesn't seem to stop. Anyway you are always on my mind and I know you know but it makes me feel better knowing I can come here and tell you.

Katrina Hickox

Happy 1st Fathers Day!!

Adam,
Today was yours and Tommie 1st Fathers Day
how I wish you could have been here with us to enjoy it.
Me and Tommie both still miss you more than words could ever say and I'm sure little Emilee does too if she could only talk I bet she would say how much she love to see you walk in that door and smile at her and tell her how much you love her. I Love you and not a day goes by that i don't think about you you are truly miss here on earth.

Love always,
Tommie and Holly

Tommie & Holly Spikes
CCSO ,Roomate

It's hard to believe that it has been five months already. It's also funny how the little things still remind me of the silly little things you would do. I have watched how so many people have changed their lives around and say it's because of you. There must be a hundred songs that remind me of you. When we lost you the whole county cried, but everyone has taken some piont of your wisdom and used it to better their life. Some of the people you touch I wouldhave never thought you would have changed, but in your great way you did.
There are those of us that will always take a moment to cry and take a moment to smile when we think about you and others who will just think about you. All in all we all miss you very much. The days get easier and so do the nights, but we still have our days when we miss you a little more. Say hello to all my family in heaven and keep that watchfull eye out for all of us still getting our job done on Earth

Katrina Hickox

Happy 1st Father's Day 6-15-03
Oh how we cried that day,
When we learned you wasn't coming home to stay.
Although the tears ran down our face
We knew you were in a better place.
Da-Da was Emille's first word, Oh how I wish you could of heard.
Just to see the smile on her face, could take you to another place.
She will soon be a year old, but your place in our hearts will never grow old.
I wish you could see her smile, You could notice it as far away as a mile.
We know you loved your daughter very much, and you cherished her every touch.
Not a day went by, that you didn't stop by, just to say Hi.
You were such a great Dad, I never saw a monent in which you wasn't glad.
What a day that will be, when your face, she can finally see.
We love her very dearly,
A love that will grow stronger yearly.
We will watch her along the years as she grows.
The love her Daddy has for her, with her, wherever she goes.
She would notice you at first sight, because your glow was like a bright light.
As your keeping watch from above, rest assured, that Emille's surrounded with lots and lots of love.
(Author Dana Young)
We miss and love you.

Emilee, Lindsey and Angie

It has been said that pain is relative, I personally no longer beleive that. I now understand how very personal pain can be. It never ceases to amaze me how life changes us personally , and as a family, when life throws us a curve, no one could have predicted that the loss of a single child could be so devastating. It is how little we know that defines us as human. we simply do not know! We go through life thinking we have all of the answers, because WE" are so wise, due too are age! What a falicy, how do we learn? We learn by example. Adam, you left behind a Legacy, you led by example, A leader leads from the front and not from the rear! What an example, we could emulate that example if only we would understand singular wisdom, yet we fail too see. DAD!

MARK A. FLESHNER FATHER

Deputy Fleshner,

I mourn your loss; the loss of your life, the loss to your community, the loss to your comrades, and certainly the loss to your family. I hope that if you did not have the opportunity to know St. Michael in this cruel world that you are getting to know him in Heaven.

I am saddened that your death was the result of yet another fatal automobile accident. Far too many of us are killed by one of our most useful tools. It is ironic that we frequently survive all the domestics, traffic stops, search warrants, and other recognized dangers, just to be felled by our own “shop.”

An old sergeant once told me that he did not fear dying from smoking, eating poorly, no sleep, or hoodlums – because his Crown Vic would get him first. That is not intended to be a joke, just a pragmatic view of what is sometimes the sad truth.

God bless your eternal soul.

Deputy Chris Harper, 129
Putnam County SO, Georgia

LITTLE BROTHER IT'S BEEN FIVE MONTHS NOW AND EVEN THOUGH THEY SAY WITH TIME THE PAIN GOES AWAY, I FIND THAT IT'S NOT TRUE. EVERY DAY I THINK ABOUT YOU AND WISH YOU WERE STILL HERE WITH US. EVERY NIGHT I SAY A PRAYER TELL YOU GOOD NIGHT AND I LOVE YOU. AND I'D GIVE ANYTHING RIGHT NOW TO BE ABLE TO TELL YOU THAT IN PERSON. I KNOW ONE DAY THAT WILL HAPPEN AND I LOOK FORWARD TO THAT DAY. I KNOW YOUR IN HEAVEN WITH THE LORD AND LOOKING DOWN ON ALL OF US. AND THAT GIVES ME SOME PEACE. I LOOK AT EMILEE AND SEE YOU IN HER. SHE IS SUCH A SWEET BABY. AND I KNOW YOUR PROUD OF HER. WE WILL BE GOING UP FOR HER BIRTHDAY. HARD TO BELIEVE SHE IS ALMOST 1 YRS OLD. I CAN HARDLY BELIEVE ALEXIS WILL BE TWO IN JULY. I FOUND A PICTURE OF YOU HOLDING ALEXIS WHEN SHE WAS 3 WEEKS OLD. IT'S ONE THAT YOU ARE ACTUALLY SMILING IN FOR A CHANGE. I MISS YOUR SMILE AND YOUR LAUGHTER. IT'S SO HARD TO BELIEVE YOUR GONE. WELL LITTLE BROTHER, I MISS YOU AND LOVE YOU. AND ONE DAY WE'LL BE TOGETHER AGAIN.

MELISSA MCKENDREE
SISTER

Adam,
It's taken me a long time to admit you are really gone. To be honest, it seems like you are still here. Everytime I pass a CCSO squad car, I still look through the windows to see if it's you. Sometimes I wonder why God called you home. He must have had a vacancy in Heaven's Sheriff's Office, and there isn't a better deputy who could have filled the position. We love and miss you very much. I still think back on the little things, like the first time I met you and you were telling my mom about your new job working as a jailor at the SO. And, then there was the time, someone was threatening to beat me up. You just told my friend "nothing better happen to her cuz she's like my little sister". Who could forget the times at the football games when you would walk by and we'd all scream "ADAM!!!" and you would just shake your head. You've always looked out for me like your sister and now I know you're looking down on me from Heaven as my "Guardian Angel". Watch over all of us the way you've always done. We will meet you again soon when our job here on Earth is done. You've done yours.

Adam, you are always in our hearts and minds!

Crystal Carter

In the simple performance of duty, he pinned on a badge,
checked his gear with a practiced eye,
and kissed his loved ones good-bye.
In the simple performance of duty, he reported for work,
joked with his buddies at roll call,
and made his last trip down the squad room hall.
In the simple performance of duty, he headed for his beat,
doing his job protecting his home from crime,
he stopped cars, and checked buildings for the last time.
In the simple performance of duty, he answered the call,
to help the helpless, to find the lost,
no matter the danger or how great the cost.
In the simple performance of duty, he lay down his life,
for those in peril he tried to save,
our brave friend went to his grave.
In the simple performance of duty, we honor his deed,
as we carry him to rest in a flag draped casket,
long after the world has forgotten, we shall never forget.
Never judge or regret, what he did,
in the simple performance of duty.

Adam, I just want to tell you we love you and miss you and not a day goes by that with dont think of you and wish you were here with us like in the old days.

Love Always ,
Holly & Tommie

Tommie & Holly Spikes
Charlton County SO

Adam,

Katrina Hickox

REST IN PEACE BROTHER. YOUR SACRIFICE WILL NOT BE FORGOTTEN.

POLICE OFFICER
NYPD

Katrina,

I want to thank you for leaving a reflection on my fiance's page. It really meant a lot to know that in your time of grieving you recognized my pain and the pain of Dennis' family and friends. It helps to know that others feel the same sense of pain and loss that we have felt. I only wish you didn't have to go through this pain. It's a long hard road that we have to haul without our loved ones, but I believe we will get through this with a lot of love and a lot of time.

In reading some of the reflections left on Adam's page I can tell that Adam was definitely well respected, well loved, and very much missed. It's apparent that he made a difference in your life and in all the lives that he touched. Adam was a great man and as they say ... "behind every great man is a great woman". I'm certian that you two would've had a great future together.

I've been given all sorts of advice since my fiance Dennis passed. But I think the best advice I've gotten is to remember all the good times you two shared. One day you will meet up with Adam again and he'll welcome you with open arms and a big smile and you'll be able to spend eternity together. Until then, use all the love he gave you as strength to move on with your life. Adam can no longer live his life, but you can. Live your life in his honour/memory.

I wish you all the best in life. Please pass on my condolences to Adam's family, friends, and fellow Law Enforcement Officers. If you ever need anything just shout. Take care of yourself.

Jocelyne Brar
Dennis McElderry's fiancee - E.O.W. (01/03/03)

Hey Adam I just wanted to share one of the greatest memories that I had of you. On January 2 you came over to see Emilee and she also turned 5 months old that day. You were only there for about 5 minutes and you picked up Emilee and you told her Happy Birthday and I just thought to myself, "how silly." But then on January 13 I knew why you came over and said what you said because that was the last thing close to her birthday that you would be here for. Adam you were a great father and came over almost everday to see her even if it was just for 5 minutes. Drew talks about you all the time. He can sing the whole song of I'm movin on and he calls it Adam's song. he always plays in his room and always says that you are driving his cop cars.Drew,Lindsey, and Emilee will all know what a wonderful person you were and I just wanted you to know that they all miss you very much and Drew and Lindsey always talk about when the time will come that they will see you again.It is so hard trying to explain to them where you are and when they will see you again so we just tell that you are in heaven and that you are an angel watching over them now,so until we meet again,keep watch over all of us, flesh.That was my nickname for you...

Dana Young (Emilee's babysitter)

As I think back on all the times we talked, the most incredible thing about you was that reassurance in your voice that no matter what happens, there would always be a brighter day to look forward to. You were an terrific person and a wonderful father. No one or nothing will ever be able to replace the memories we have of you. You made a definite impact on my life and I know that you are watching over us every day. We miss you dearly and will always keep your memory and spirit with us. Farewell my friend.

RON MCKENDREE
BROTHER-IN-LAW

Dear Adam,
It has been 4 months that you've been away. We all still miss you so much. Not a day goes by that I don't think of you and wish you were here to see Emilee and all her new things she is doing. We visit the cemetery quite often. I try to keep it clean along with Angel's and Dad's. I often take flowers and wreaths out to let you know we will never forget of you. Even though you can't be here to be a father to Emilee, I want you to know Bair loves her as if she's his own. He will never replace you but she does have someone that loves her for a father figure. She FINALLY has said moma and it was on Mothers Day. I couldn't ask for a better Mother's Day present. She has 2 bottom teeth, can say da da, duck, moma, bye bye and wave bye bye, crawls on hands and knees, pulls up to standing. She even has those lil curls in her hair in the back like yours when it got long. She is a spitting image of you. She also LOVES a bath. I know you see she is well loved by everyone. Keep a watch over us and let me know my signs when i go to visit. We love and miss you!!!!

Angie Marshall
Mother of Adam's Daughter