Family, Friends & Fellow Officers Remember...

Police Officer Robert J. Stanze, II

St. Louis Metropolitan Police Department, Missouri

End of Watch Tuesday, August 8, 2000

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Reflections for Police Officer Robert J. Stanze, II

Hey Sweets,
I just got back from COPS camp with Wil. Everyone who looked at our pictures said how much he looks like you, and he does. It was really a great experience for Wil and Me. Some days were difficult, but in the end it felt good to shed some tears. I can't wait to take Holly and John next year. They are really starting to ask more and more about you, and of course I love telling them. I could be happy talking about you all day every day, that's what was so great about last week. I got to do that.

It's about 12:30am here, and I'm sitting here wishing that six years ago I hadn't turned my back to you when you came home late from the ballgame, but that I had reached out and held you and never let go. I wish I had kissed you goodbye that morning, instead of stomping out. I wish I had called you 1:30pm and delayed your day just a little, but of course there's no going back is there. I miss you so much, and I can't even try to imagine how things would be if you were still here, but I told Wil that if you were here, you would definitely love to coach his t-ball team.

You were a great husband, awesome Dad, and the best friend I could have ever asked for. I just wish that that the kids could have had more time with you, or any time for that matter. I love you most.
Love, Shell
P.S. sorry about Holly's ears, I hope you understand ;)

August 8, 2006

I miss you so much. Please help me tomorrow and continue to help me everyday. It has not gotten easier, in fact, in some ways it has become more difficult.

August 7, 2006

Thinking about you, Bob, now and always...

Your friends, Steve & Angie

August 7, 2006

Officer Stanze,

I just wanted to take a minute to say thank you for serving the St. Louis community and all of your hard work and dedication. I will keep your family and loved ones in my thoughts as August 8th approaches. There are no words that can express how much I appreciate police officers and all that they do for the community. Thank you for your hard work. You will always be remembered in St. Louis.

Tracie
Friend of Nick Sloan

August 7, 2006

The count down begins....

August 6, 2006

It's so hard to believe it is already 6 years since we lost you. This year the 8th is on a Tuesday, the same day of the week that you died in 2000. So here we are the weekend before and I keep wondering what you did that whole weekend, the last of your life. I hope it was filled with fun, friends, laughter and love! Knowing you, it was. Miss and love you forever...

August 5, 2006

No matter what year, what month, what day......you will always be remembered. Especially thinking about you on August 8th, 2006.

J. Jackson
Ex- St. Louis City P.D.

August 4, 2006

Been thinking of you bob. Miss you.

August 4, 2006

Hey bob - Kacey died today. we've had her for 14 1/2 years - I'm sure you're throwing her a ball & playing with her today. I hope so. We've lost two of the animals this year that we adopted in colorado soon after we moved there. what a crappy week I'm having already (wow, is that self pity or what?)! We are going to go to the lake this weekend with a friend to get away and try to relax. Everything just seems so hard right now. There is so much going on that I can't change & I wish you could just help change it all. I thank god everyday that I had you in my life for 29 years, and hope I have many many more with my sister and big "little" brother :) love you bob.

dh

July 31, 2006

hey bob. Things have been really crazy lately --
I really miss you. I still talk to you about my problems when I'm stressed & it still helps :)

July 26, 2006

Thanks for being there Tuesday night. I know you helped us get through a tough night. Miss you...

July 12, 2006

Happy 4th!! Miss you and will be thinking about you..

July 4, 2006

Happy 4th of July Bob! I'll have a beer for you. I've been thinking about you a lot lately. Love you.

July 3, 2006

This time of year makes me think about all the "lasts" everyone had with you. Our last summer with you. Your last "move" to a new house. The last time you saw your twins on the ultrasound. The last time we all got together to talk about nothing and everything all in one night. The last time we saw you and talked to you.

The last time we DIDN'T feel this pain.

June 24, 2006

i love daddy bob. john is playing gameboy he loves you too. mom misses you too. happy fathers day.
love holly and whole family even tippy.

June 18, 2006

HAPPY FATHERS DAY. YOU ARE THE BEST DAD. I MISS YOU. FROM WIL.

June 18, 2006

Happy Father's Day Bob! You would have been one incredible Father. I am so sorry your kids never got to know you. They missed out big time, as you were one special man.

Miss you buddy!

June 16, 2006

Hey, I just wanted to say hello. Me and the kids talk about you every day. Holly and John are really starting to "know" you, and they all like to tell stories about you. They are very excited about the quilt we've been working on, and last week they started sleeping with one of your old shirts because it still smells like you. They miss their "Daddy Bob" very much and wish you were still here to be with them. I wish you were too.

We saw Tom yesterday...boy does seeing him bring back a lot of memories (mostly funny ones). Boy the two of you had some stories. I really miss your stories. I always think about how much you would have liked to have told me about your last arrest, had things turned out differently. It would have been a great one. Please don't be so scarce...we really miss you around here.
Love Ya always.

June 12, 2006

Just wanted to say Hi!..I'm thinking about you.

June 10, 2006

so many things have gone on lately. so many people need your help -- I know you have been there for us before & hope you continue to help us feel your love & strength.
I've been thinking about Wil alot lately. I know you are watching out over him. Maybe a visit soon would help us all :)

June 9, 2006

Things are a mess and I wish you were here to make us realize that life is too short and we shouldn't take ourselves so seriously.

Miss you so very much! Please ask God to help us all

June 2, 2006

I love you & was just thinking about you! I stop here and your fob site everyday to say hi & see your picture. I miss you bob.

Deb

May 15, 2006

bob,
just wanted to let you know that i was thinking of you. we almost lost kodiak this past week, so please keep him and murph in your thoughts. thanks for always being a good friend.

love,
meghan

c.o. meghan murphy
maryland hts pd/friend

May 15, 2006

Amy told me you stopped by again. Thank you so much, I really needed to know you hear me. I'm glad you're doing well and I miss you too, but you already know that don't you. Please visit one of us again...I live for those visits...my chance to be with you again.
I love you.

May 4, 2006

this was left on Nick Sloans site by his cousin karen & I liked it--it's a poem she found:
We little knew that morning,
God was going to
call your name,
In life we loved you dearly,
In death we do the same.
It broke our hearts to lose you,
You did not go alone,
for part of us went with you,
The day God called you home.
You left us beautiful memories,
Your love is still our guide,
And though we cannot see you,
You are always by our side.
Our family chain is broken,
And nothing
seems the same,
But as God calls us
one by one,
The chain will link again.

deb -sister

May 3, 2006

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